bringing you up to date –
- I am back at work. I considered quitting off and on throughout my maternity leave but ultimately decided it would be easier to quit if being a working mom didn’t work out than it would be to find another job if being a stay-at-home-mom failed and thus, I am back to work after a four-month maternity leave.
- So far, I prefer for the moment to being a working mom than a stay-at-home mom. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t love how long I’m parted from my daughter each day and actually think part-time would be perfect (but no, I can’t go part-time with my current job) but otherwise I feel it lends a sense of organization and peace to our household that wasn’t there when I was home all day. And also, I get to eat lunch. With both hands. and it’s not half a bagel spread with whatever I can grab from the fridge slopped on top. And I can listen to my pandora radion stations throughout the day, wear linen without getting spit up on, wear high heels with abandon and did I mention, eat lunch? Don’t get me wrong, I miss Evangeline like I miss a limb but I also really love how much fun it is to see her at the end of each day.
- One great thing about daycare – NAPS. Oh my god, Evangeline did NOT nap before she went to daycare. I never stressed about it because she has been an awesome night sleeper for well over two months and also, I read this site which told me not to worry too much about organized naps for many months but suddenly, without any assistance from us, Evangeline naps! And is then happy the whole. rest.of.the.day. And so, for all the mothers out there who are at their wits end re: naps I recommend two weeks of daycare as a solution.
- I’m still breastfeeding. If you would have told me this before I had Evangeline I would have laughed so hard I would have fallen out of my seat or drowned from the many, many tears of laughter. Instead, 4+ months in I am still doing it and when I can find a way to write about it that doesn’t participate in the culture of mom-against-mom, I will. I have been stunned with how fraught this conversation is and how vehement some voices can me on the subject – it’s absolutely chilling how women treat one another on this subject, let alone the many, many, many other subjects on motherhood we apparently argue about endlessly on places like babble and blogher and the nearby playground.
- S. found a job in Pittsburgh and no longer travels so often for work, which is wonderful. My brother received a promotion at work and is moving to Colorado, which is wonderful for him but awful for the rest of us. All four grandparents are insane over their grandchild to an almost uncomfortable degree and I often find myself hoping that someone else will pop out a kid if only to alleviate some of the pressure from Evangeline – it is almost bizarre in its nature and I am trying to protect her from it.
- People who ask moms with newborns to skype are jerks. Do you know how impossible it is to
(a.) commit to a time when your baby isn’t fussy, and
(b.) hold her on your lap or in some proximity to the camera, and
(c.) have any sort of conversation? As it turns out, pretty damn impossible. And yet the requests to skype keep pouring in from family and friends, as do the requests for more and more pictures to be emailed, and it is terribly stressful. If you have a new mom in your life, I recommend making her dinner and then taking the lead from her…she’ll get you some pictures and set up a skype session but probably not until after she’s done with her thank you notes which are incredibly overdue.
- I am reading again but very slowly – currently making my way through The Girl with The Dragon Tattoo, which I am enjoying even more than I thought I would. I recently finished Tina Fey’s brain dump Bossy Pants and I loved every random chapter of it – a review coming your way soon.
- I am not cooking any new recipes right now and don’t know when I will find the time to do so again…I am hoping by autumn. For now we are relying on our grill, vegetables and fruit from the farmer’s market, the occasional pizza delivery and cheese, crackers and salami. It is not ideal but neither is any of it (except the pizza) highly processed and it works.
- I saw the Hangover II with my brother yesterday. I hope they make a three and a four and a five and never change the formula, ever.
- I think this just about brings everything up to date – except to say, whatever did I do before Evangeline? She fills up all the spaces in between, in the most wonderful way possible: